No matter what a woman looks like, if she’s confident, she’s sexy

I wanted to write a post about confidence.  This seems to be the biggest trigger in attracting a man.  Most men that I asked said that a confident woman = a sexy woman.  I have had alot of issues with my body, especially gaining weight in college and after I had my son.  I still havent rid myself of the baby weight, and he is going to be 6.  I had excuse after excuse, but it was all my fault.  I never blamed the person who's fault it really was....myself. 

My boyfriend had alot to do with lifting me up and making me feel sexy.  He helped me get out of the slump of me not feeling "worth it".  He used to literally get mad at me when I would complain about my body or the way I looked.  So I had to look within to find who I was; to be able to bring out the woman I am today.  Even though I am a mother, I still am Kaylah.....a Woman who has goals, ambition and a strive to make a difference. 

In today's society, there is alot of pressure on females, as we all know.  If you dont look like either a model or a music video vixen, then you wont get looked it.  Am I right ladies?  Being pretty doesnt cut it no more....phrases like "Shes a BAD BITCH" and "SHE IS SEXY AS HELL" is only words to me now.  They once were phrases that made me not want to leave my house.  I know I didnt look like these runway models who are thin with long legs.....nor did I look like the girls in the 50 Cent videos with BIG tits and a fat ass.  But what I did know was that i cant hide my entire life in the house worrying if a man was going to look my way or not.  I was with a man who thought I was sexy, so why should I worry about another one checking me out. 

Confidence is key.  Its what made me wake up and smell the coffee!  One day I just decided to get up and put a little extra effort in getting ready in the morning.  I did my hair (which was always in a ponytail or messy bun), I threw on an extra coat of mascara (one thing all women should own!) and put on actual clothes (not just sweatpants and a tee shirt).  If you feel beautiful, you will portray that and others will believe it! How many of you girls feel sexy when you dress up to go out? or if you try a new beauty product?  I know I do!  If you look in the mirror and know you are at your best, then your 10x more likely to walk out of the house with your head held high.

Speaking of holding your head high.....please walk like that!  There is nothing cute about walking around looking down, or not making eye contact with someone.  Demand a presence!  Walk into a room and smile!  A smile is the BEST curve you got ladies!  Someone that shows that they are sure of what they want and who they are always is sexy...any man can tell you that!

To sum it all up.....show others that you deserve it!  Cause you do!  Don't let others walk all over you.....make them know you are a strong, smart and sexy woman just by being you!  The world would be a better place if there were less video hoes and more women CEOs.  Focus on what you want...not what others want you to be. 

I'll leave you with this....
"Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world right in the eye."~ Helen Keller