Lady in the stree but a fReAk in the sheets....

What ever happened to this phrase?  Lately all we see are these women degrading themselves in all types of ways....whether it being dressing provocatively or talking like trash when out in public. Your only gonna catch the wrong types of dudes when you act this way, so stop complaining when you do meet a douchbag.  It IRKS me when I see a girl with her ass cheeks out and her titties all in a mans face but then complain that they are meeting all the wrong men.  Ladies....do yourself a favor and leave something to the imagination!  I'm not a hater or anything but I am sick of seeing all these girls degrading themselves just to catch a mans attention. 

Being a classy, sexy, sophisticated lady is more than enough to have a man look your way.  When its time for the bedroom...thats when you can let out your inner sex kitten.  You can relsease all your sexual inhabitions with him behind closed doors.  Its thrilling to know that he has a woman on his arm that knows how to act around his family friends but can also be his personal porn star when they are alone. 

Our society puts to much pressure on females to look and act a certain way.  We cant be SEXY all day long....I know that I'm not going to go to the grocery store with 6in stillettos on, are you?  Its really sad to see these everyday women trying to keep up with societies image of what we should look, dress and act like. Women have to wear alot of "hats" and I think this is a hat that we need to put to rest.  Be yourself.  Then when you and your man are all alone behind closed doors, thats the time to bring the freak out.  Dont try to give him a preview before he gained respect for you.  This will only make him NOT have respect for you....which then leads to him being the wrong guy. 

You want to be wifey material....not some notch on his belt that he can brag to his friends about later on.  Respect yourself and you will find a man that respects you just as much!  I am all for being a freak....but leave it in the privacy of you and your mans bedroom. 

50 Shades Craze

I still havent read the books!  I don't know what kind of sex toy sales woman I am!!!!  I should be on top of it (pun intended) but I still havent come around to reading this sexified trilogy.  I heard alot of mixed reviews on these books and I cant take any sides until I read them myself.  All I know is that there is alot of real freakiness going on....and that definitly catches my attention.  Some tell me that the book is amazing and they never put it down, while others tell me its an easy read with alot of simple wording and ideas.   I used to read books by Zane back in my college days and they were pretty graphic...so I dont know what the big hooplah is all about with this 50 Shades thing. 

All I know is that I'm taking the idea and running with it.....As a pleasure party consultant, I know alot of women want to do parties based on this book.  Masks, ties, and things of that nature is stuff the guests would wear to the party.....as far as my presentation, I focus on selling whips, handcuffs and even the duo tone balls that were used in the book.  I just basically go with the flow.....I think its time I get my game up and start doing my homework.  Once I read the book I will put my 2 cents in.  Until then....let me know what you guys think (if you read it)!

No matter what a woman looks like, if she’s confident, she’s sexy

I wanted to write a post about confidence.  This seems to be the biggest trigger in attracting a man.  Most men that I asked said that a confident woman = a sexy woman.  I have had alot of issues with my body, especially gaining weight in college and after I had my son.  I still havent rid myself of the baby weight, and he is going to be 6.  I had excuse after excuse, but it was all my fault.  I never blamed the person who's fault it really was....myself. 

My boyfriend had alot to do with lifting me up and making me feel sexy.  He helped me get out of the slump of me not feeling "worth it".  He used to literally get mad at me when I would complain about my body or the way I looked.  So I had to look within to find who I was; to be able to bring out the woman I am today.  Even though I am a mother, I still am Kaylah.....a Woman who has goals, ambition and a strive to make a difference. 

In today's society, there is alot of pressure on females, as we all know.  If you dont look like either a model or a music video vixen, then you wont get looked it.  Am I right ladies?  Being pretty doesnt cut it no more....phrases like "Shes a BAD BITCH" and "SHE IS SEXY AS HELL" is only words to me now.  They once were phrases that made me not want to leave my house.  I know I didnt look like these runway models who are thin with long legs.....nor did I look like the girls in the 50 Cent videos with BIG tits and a fat ass.  But what I did know was that i cant hide my entire life in the house worrying if a man was going to look my way or not.  I was with a man who thought I was sexy, so why should I worry about another one checking me out. 

Confidence is key.  Its what made me wake up and smell the coffee!  One day I just decided to get up and put a little extra effort in getting ready in the morning.  I did my hair (which was always in a ponytail or messy bun), I threw on an extra coat of mascara (one thing all women should own!) and put on actual clothes (not just sweatpants and a tee shirt).  If you feel beautiful, you will portray that and others will believe it! How many of you girls feel sexy when you dress up to go out? or if you try a new beauty product?  I know I do!  If you look in the mirror and know you are at your best, then your 10x more likely to walk out of the house with your head held high.

Speaking of holding your head high.....please walk like that!  There is nothing cute about walking around looking down, or not making eye contact with someone.  Demand a presence!  Walk into a room and smile!  A smile is the BEST curve you got ladies!  Someone that shows that they are sure of what they want and who they are always is sexy...any man can tell you that!

To sum it all up.....show others that you deserve it!  Cause you do!  Don't let others walk all over you.....make them know you are a strong, smart and sexy woman just by being you!  The world would be a better place if there were less video hoes and more women CEOs.  Focus on what you want...not what others want you to be. 

I'll leave you with this....
"Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world right in the eye."~ Helen Keller

I have arrived

Hey Guys!  Thanks for viewing my FIRST blog!!!!  I wanted to start a blog to empower women of all shapes and sizes and help them to feel comfortable in their skin.  I am a pleasure party consultant, and for those of you that dont know what that is, its basically a home party based business that gives women a chance to learn about, and purchase adult novelty toys within their own homes with a group of friends.  Its like a "tupperware" party but with sex toys and lotions!  Everything is done tastefully and privatly. 

The main reason why I wanted to get into this business is because I wanted to teach women to love themselves and feel confident and sexy!  Exploring their bodies, whether on their own or with their partner should not feel uncomfortable, but rather exciting! 

In this blog I will talk about alot of different issues that touch upon the topic of sex and relationships.  I will also try out products and give my reviews and thoughts on each and how they can help ENHANCE your love life. 

Subscribe and I will make sure you definitly will learn alot!!!!


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